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THE ARRIVAL OF THE BUTTERFLIES

Butterflies in the belly

Butterflies in the belly

Dennis and two of his friends entered Desiree supermarket to buy a particular after-shave recommended by a colleague at the office. While trying to pick some little choppies from another section of the supermarket,he found himself standing next to a gorgeous damsel.

Dayuum! She was beautiful, she looked like something out of a magazine cover.
Dennis couldn’t hold back, he just kept staring at her and then when she looked up, he spoke. ‘hello cutie’, Dennis said.

With a smile that competed with the sunshine,she said, ‘hi’. Dennis quickly introduced himself, mehn! you should have heard her voice when she said “ I’m Isabelle”. Dennis was completely blown away, no name would have been more appropriate for a creature with such an angelic face.

Isabelle gave Dennis her card when he requested and he also gave his to her. She was into event planning and management. After leaving the premises, Dennis could still picture Isabelle’s face in his mind’s eye. He could already feel the butterflies in his tummy. He and Isabelle had two dates and on the third date, he asked her out and luckily, beautiful Isabelle accepted. The butterflies kept dancing around his tummy, he was overjoyed.

I’m sure you have once had this feeling right? LOL. Why not share with me? Don’t be shy jor

Just like D’banj said ‘Don’t get it twisted love is a beautiful thing’. Love can be a beautiful feeling. It starts with that magical attraction of meeting someone and feeling connected to that person almost immediately. You just start to have that fluttery feeling in your tummy and those around you might even notice an instant change in your mood.

It is that thing that causes you to glow and shine in a very unusual way. It is that thing that makes a lady’s eyes sparkle and makes a man smile from ear to ear, like a cheshire cat. At the arrival of the butterflies, you become vulnerable, you can do almost anything to get the attention of him/her. To get them to accept you.

Oh well!….if only the butterflies stayed forever *sad face* at some point the butterflies might decide to leave and it all becomes normal again. That magical effect he/she has on you might gradually reduce and at some point fade out. Sometimes the butterflies in the tummy IS NOT love, it might just be mere physical attraction.

However, it’s a PHASE….Enjoy the arrival of the butterflies.

Keep the love in your hearts. WELCOME TO FEBRUARY…. The VALENTINE month.

Make it a memorable one….Try not to miss the articles for this month and share them with your loved ones. Its the Season of LOVE.

Have a LOVELY week

Love,

L’queen

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This article was written by Tolulope L’queen Lemikan.
Tolu is a writer, with passion for the subject “LOVE”, she is a freelance writer on relationships for some other blogs and magazines.

Follow her on twitter: @lqueeen

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BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

Marry Me

Marry Me

2013: weddings, more weddings, mooore weddings…

2012 was a very great year. It greeted us with sooooo many weddings right from January all the way to December. Personally I attended so many weddings last year, weddings of friends,family friends,cousins,church members etc. I still attended a wedding on the 29th of December 2012.

To God be the glory, 2013 is here and I know so many people preparing to walk down the aisle this year *winks*.So many people have already tied the knot this year. It is really amazing, knowing that you’ll be spending the rest of your life with someone you really love. Congratulations y’all. Please invite me oh! Y’all know I love weddings *covers face*

However, before you say I do, there are a few things I wanna bring to your remembrance. We all know that marriage is the only school or institution where you receive the certificate before you resume. The wedding ceremony is just for a day, but marriage is FOREVER. The wedding will be attended by a crowd but it is only you and your spouse that will sail through the marriage boat through the stormy weather, when it is smooth and when the tide comes.

So just before you say I do, how much do you know? And do you agree with all that you know about him/her? Agreement is the basis of LOVE. I love the scripture in the third verse of the third book of Amos that says ‘Can two walk together except they agree?’

There’s this message by Pst Mrs Bimbo Odukoya of blessed memory that I always love to listen to, I would like to share a few things from it with you. Before that, it is essential to realize that you and your lover have strengths and weaknessses. Once you say I do, you are not only accepting the strengths, the weaknesses are inclusive. It is important that during the course of your relationship, you discuss so many issues. A relationship shouldn’t just be about ‘you are the love of my life, the apple of my life….blah, blah, blah. It’s a time to discuss and share your views on life issues.

The following are worthy of discussion:
CAREER/AMBITION AND GOALS: It is essential to share your goals and aspirations with your partner, so that you don’t get married and then surprises start to set in. Some men will say once she has my kids, she can’t work. Share details of your career path and what it really entails. Make marriage goals together; number of kids, child spacing etc
VERBAL INTIMACY/COMMUNICATION AND TOGETHERNESS: Ensure that your partner also believes that there should be communication and verbal intimacy so that each of you can express your minds from time to time. Talk about the amount of time you should spend together because some people have jobs that keep them away for months and sometimes years. Talk about it now!
FINANCIAL/MONETARY ISSUES: Ensure that you have a proper understanding of how your partner spends, his/her views on spending and investment. If you are about to marry an expensive lady, please make sure there’s enough money in the account…Talk about financial allocation or family budget, family vacation, children’s education and upkeep. This is really important because money issues have broken a lot of homes.
SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS: Talk about your relationship with friends and family members after marriage. Talk about the possibility of siblings or parents coming to live with you after marriage. Talk about how to deal with in-laws.
SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR: Talk about your individual habits or behaviours; drinking, smoking and clubbing. Share your views on all these to know what he/she feels about such things.
SUBMISSION AND RESPECT: Share your views on the level of submission and respect you require in marriage because it differs in families and cultures.
PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE: Talk about your religious beliefs,general opinions and biases.
ISSUES IN THE HOME: Talk about the cooking,laundry and cleanliness of the house. Some ladies will say they can’t cook everyday, that the man should also enter the kitchen. Hmmnn talk about it now oh! Some people cannot hand wash clothes it’s either you buy a washing machine or you send the clothes to the dry-cleaner. Talk about it now!
WEAKNESSES AND STRENGTHS: Talk about each other’s weaknesses, some people have weaknesses like pride, anger, stinginess,unfriendliness etc. talk about them. Its also important to talk about your strengths, one of the good things about marriage is that one partner can complement the other. I have seen couples that the husband is very shy but the wife is very bold and outspoken. Each one will cover for the other.
HOBBIES AND INTERESTS: We all have different hobbies and interests. It is important, that your partner knows what your’s are. Sports: football, table-tennis, basktet-ball, golf etc. Music: Rhythm and blues, Rap, classical, country, rock etc Movies: action, comedy,romance,sci-fi etc
HEALTH ISSUES: Talk about health issues, the kind of medical consultancy you use. Some believe Government owned hospitals have better and more qualified doctors while some only visit private hospitals. Some people don’t believe in taking medication, they just pray. Talk about it now! Talk about weight issues too, some like orobo while some want lepa for life. Well, talk about it coz when the babies come, she might grow fat oh!
HABITS: Talk about the good habits
Time to sleep/ time to wake up: some people sleep by 12am and wake up by 5am and they are ok, while some sleep by 9am and still find it hard to keep their eyes open by 6. Talk about it.
Prayer: Muslims usually wake up 5am to pray, some do this faithfully while some don’t. talk about it now. Some christians wake up to pray at night, some don’t even pray at all. Talk about it now.
Meal time: some people eat very early in the morning while some don’t eat till almost mid-day. Talk about it now! .If you marry a man that eats very early in the morning, be ready to wake up early to cook for him everyday.
HOUSING/ ACCOMODATION : Some people say they can’t live outside Lagos or Abuja, some say they can only live in a duplex. Some people say they must have cooks, gate-men, gardeners and drivers in their home. Hmmnn…talk about it
FOREVER/CONDITIONAL: Some people say no matter what, my marriage is forever while some say once he cheats on me its over. Talk about it. Some say once she doesn’t have a child,I’ll marry another woman…hmmmnn. Talk about it now
There are so many other things worth discussing but these are the few I could cover. Get your partner to share every little detail with you from the past, to the present and plan for the future together. Share all the details before the big day when you’ll say ‘I DO’. Remember, forever is a looooooong time.

I wish you a great forever marriage

Have a great week.

Love,
L’queen.

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This article was written by Tolulope L’queen Lemikan.
Tolu is a writer, with passion for the subject “LOVE”, she is a freelance writer on relationships for some other blogs and magazines.
Follow her on twitter: @lqueeen

CCT FORMULA: NEW YEAR,NEW APPROACH

Here we are…. It’s a brand new year, 2013. So fresh, so clean and without spot or wrinkle. Its time to begin to fill the pages and do things right. I am sure when you saw the title you must have been wondering what does she mean by CCT formula?…don’t you worry, I’m just about to break it down.
You know when you want to cook a kind of soup you have never cooked before or one that you have cooked before, but you are not so good at, you might need an expert to write out the list of ingredients and procedures required for that meal to be properly prepared. Now in this new year, a lot of us will be cooking the LOVE soup, so lets consider some of the ingredients to ensure we have a delicious soup.
The first C is COMMITMENT: In my own understanding, commitment first starts with AGREEMENT. The holy book talks about this in the third verse of the third chapter of the book of Amos ‘Can two walk together, except they agree?’ I believe that commitment in a relationship, is when the era of ‘ME’ or ‘I’ ends and then the era of ‘US’ or ‘WE’ begins. Commitment is when you realize that it’s not just about me anymore but about US and you make a conscious effort to consider the other person whenever you have to make decisions. It is when you become willing to make sacrifices for that person, when you don’t just remain a receiver of love but you also give out love to the other person from the very depth of your heart.
The second C is CARE: It is essential to show care in a relationship,although we all have different approaches to this. In my opinion, showing care for another is by making them realize that you are concerned about them, that you are willing to share their joy and pain with them, that you are willing to stand by them through the good or bad, happy or sad, proving to them not only in words but also in actions that they have a place in your heart. You can also show care by supporting your partner. Some people have no idea of what their partners go through on a daily basis, this is not good at all. You should always be interested in every little thing that happens to him/her, you should be their greatest cheer leader. Celebrate your partner’s achievement, correct him/her in love and also pray for him/her. So many of us don’t pray for our special someone….new year, new approach.
The T is TRUST: Trust is the basis of any healthy relationship. Looking at the word TRUST, there’s US in TRUST. Lack of trust in a relationship has the power to cripple that relationship. The real test of trust in a relationship is the ability to share your secrets,weaknesses, fears, failures and past with each other. To be able to open up completely to one another. You should tell your partner the little details of everything before something big comes out of it.
Did I hear you say I can’t do that? Believe me, its really hard to trust someone, especially when you’ve been hurt from a relationship betrayal and you have decided not to trust again. But if you continue that way, it means you are still living in the past. I had to go through a healing process to be able to trust again and live free of the restrictive force of threatning fears. I have come to discover that the key to a rich emotional life is the ability to TRUST. No matter what has happened in the past, you can trust again.
Using the right proportion of the CCT formula, will produce a delicious LOVE soup. Each partner will be happy and the roots of the relationship will grow stronger.
Use the CCT Formula TODAY!!! Y’HEARD?
I wish you the very best of LOVE in 2013
Love,
L’queen.

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This article was written by Tolulope L’queen Lemikan.
Tolu is a writer, with passion for the subject “LOVE”, she is a freelance writer on relationships for some other blogs and magazines.
Follow her on twitter: @lqueeen

ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS ___________

I remember a particular night back in secondary school, my BFF (best female friend) and I were talking outside and all of a sudden, she looked up and said “ Wow! see the three wishing stars”. I didn’t really believe in it but since she insisted, I looked up and made a wish. Maybe my wish didn’t come true that Christmas because I didn’t believe in it, but her’s came true that year.

I know we all have wish lists and I have mine too but there’s one particular wish I really want to come true. Ten years after, it’s almost Christmas again and although it sounds crazy, I have been looking out for the three wishing stars since the beginning of December. I only pray they come out tonight so that I can make that special wish on my Christmas wish list.
Some contacts on my BBM have been writing letters to Santa since the beginning of December. If only I could have a sneak peek of those letters, I’m sure some of them will be 5 paged type set wish lists…lol.

Just like what 2chainz wanted for his birthday, one of my BBM contacts said he wants a big booty for Christmas….what a Christmas wish though. Another of my bbm contacts said he wants $ 1 billion dollars for Christmas. Anyway they say “different strokes for different folks”. Some wish for love, some wish for happiness, some want that particular blazer, dress, shoe, diamond, Ipad,Iphone, Blackberry etc. When making all these wish lists, remember there’s a limit to what dear Santa can carry oh! Lol. We all have that one thing that we truly desire this season and it will mean so much to us if our wishes come to pass.

In the spirit of Christmas, I would encourage you not just to make wishes, but try and be the answer to someone’s prayer. Be the reason for the smile on someone’s face this season, make someone happy. One way you can find true happiness is by being the source of another’s happiness.
It could be your family; some of us have been away from home for so long. This is the time to show love to members of your own house-hold. It could be your kids or siblings; wrap the smallest gifts, it doesn’t have to be something expensive just something that can put a smile on their faces. I gave my younger brother something he had always wanted last week Wednesday and ever since then he’ll always say ‘I have the best sister in the world’ that little gesture from me, meant so much to him.

It could be your husband/wife/lover, a lot of us have been extremely busy all year and this is the time to take him/her out and do something really sweet and romantic. Last week, I saw a friend of mine packaging a lovely christmas gift for his lady and it looked so sweet. It could be a cake, chocolate box, wine, maybe a book or devotional for the next year. You can decide to take him/her out, maybe to the cinemas, to a quiet garden, to a musical concert, a special meal treat….the list goes on and on.

As for me, this Christmas I don’t just want to be blessed but I want to be a blessing. I want to be the source of someone’s happiness and above all to celebrate JESUS…the REASON for the SEASON. So tell me, what do you want for Christmas? Fill in the gap…ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS ________________________

MERRY CHRISTMAS Y’ALL
May we live to see many more Christmas seasons.
Remember, it is more blessed to give than to receive. Don’t focus on your needs alone, think of people whose needs you can help meet.

Love,
L’queen.

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This article was written by Tolulope L’queen Lemikan.
Tolu is a writer, with passion for the subject “LOVE”, she is a freelance writer on relationships for some other blogs and magazines.
Follow her on twitter: @lqueeen

FALLING IN LOVE WITH SANTA (•͡.̮ ~͡)

SANTA

SANTA

It’s the most beautiful time of the year. The christmas season. The christmas trees have been fixed and the decorations are already set in our homes and on the streets. The kids are on holidays,expecting Santa-claus and its all together beautiful

Santa-claus is an imaginary figure who is said to bring presents to children during christmas. Simply put, Santa-claus is what we call Father Christmas here in Naija or as the yoruba’s call it ‘Baba Keresi’….LOL.

Father Christmas or Santa-claus can also be used to refer to someone who gives a lot, someone who has an open hand,very generous and kind.

My family friend told me the story of a lady, who was in a great relationship. She had all she desired in her man but along the line, she met a nice neighbour. She newly moved into the area and her cute neighbour was indeed very helpful. He was very good with cars and at that time, she had issues with her car. During that period, he’ll take her to work since their offices were not too far from each other and at the close of work, he’ll come pick her up and together they will go home.

Soon enough, the lady started having feelings for this new neighbour. She became too occupied with thoughts of him and before long, she started to neglect her own relationship. She’ll always go to him whenever she had the slightest problems and her neighbour being ‘Mr. fix it’ would always solve her problems be it financial, electrical, material etc. he was always willing to assist. They hardly spoke about their personal life but they enjoyed each other’s company and most conversations were work related.

On this very day, she went to Santa’s house to return the spare tyre he had lent her earlier in the week. As she drove in, she met a beautiful young lady doing laundry in the compound. She wasn’t expecting that, but she succeeded in hiding her surprise. She tried to respond to the lady’s greeting but the words didn’t come out right. Just then, Santa-claus came out, he must have heard the sound of a car in the compound. Smiling, he made the introductions. He introduced the other lady as his fiancé and introduced her as his new neighbour to his fiancé
Santa was smiling all through because all the while he had been helping her, he never had any ulterior motives. She on the other hand, left the compound feeling like the ground should open and swallow her….eeeya!

This happens to a lot of young women and men too, although its the women most of the time. When a guy is kind to a lady,he might not have the intention of taking it further. But ladies, being the emotional beings that we are, we already begin to have ideas in our head. You’ll hear things like ‘awwww….he’s so nice’, ‘he’s such a darling’, ‘ohhhhh…..that’s so romantic’ ,when the guy has just done something he simply regards as an act of kindness. Sometimes it could be the guy too, the fact that your cute lady neighbour brings you a cooler of food every once in a while doesn’t mean she has fallen in love with you. She might just be a kind lady who loves to cook and share with someone and that someone could be anybody else.

Now the question is, did Santa break her heart? To me, it’s a capital NO!!! she was hurt by her own assumptions.

Beware!!!….not every Santa claus , Mother Christmas or Father Christmas that offers gifts/ assistance or shows care/concern, is in love with you. Don’t break your own heart by your own assumptions.

Read, comment and SHARE!!
Merry Christmas in Advance.

Show love to the people around you this season.

Love,
L’queen.

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This article was written by Tolulope L’queen Lemikan.
Tolu is a writer, with passion for the subject “LOVE”, she is a freelance writer on relationships for some other blogs and magazines.
Follow her on twitter: @lqueeen